destroy the idea that im not that nigga
Anonymous asked:
I've tried my best to break the cycle and build myself up but I still don't understand why I lack confidence. It's hurtful to know that my younger brother had figured out in his teens what I still struggle with!
kingjaffejoffer answered:
You have to learn how to use what you have to your advantage.
You can’t do what your brother does in the way he does it. But you can get the same thing your brother has via a different path that’s better suited for you. It’s just a matter of being resourceful and persistent if you really want it.
Think that way.
There are so many different ways to do everything.
Anonymous asked:
King, how have you let go of pain/anger? I have a lot of anger and guilt/shame inside. I'm struggling to just let go and start afresh.
kingjaffejoffer answered:
I dedicated myself to moving on.
I’m a very prideful person and I also believe in the power of thinking and keeping the right mindset.
So I can’t let another person destroy me. I can only destroy myself.
Just some words of real shit -
Be careful who you have unprotected sex with.
Be careful who you vent to.
Be careful of how you use the word ‘love.’
Know when to let that shit go.
Be careful who you speak to about your finances.
Calm down before making decisions in anger.
Some bridges need to be burned.
Know the difference between like, lust and love.
Trust your gut.
Write it down; you’re not gonna remember.
Find an outlet for your stress/anxiety. Run, yoga, drink/smoke in moderation, write, meditate. find something that works for you.
Once it’s on the internet, it’s nachos anymore.
Stop trying to please everyone. It is impossible. Someone will be offended. Someone will be unsatisfied.
Drink more fucking water.
Memorize important numbers by heart. Your phone may not always be available.
Love yourself. Learn to if you do not know how. If you put yourself first in all that you do, it will come to you soon.
Stop caring so much about what people will think and say. Because fuck em.
Stop lurking through his/her shit. Mind your got damn business and live.
Try to be considerate of how your actions or lack of can affect others. You never know what people may have going on. The inconvenience can cost time, energy and money.
Communication kills assumptions.
Cum often.
#kbye
“Hardship often prepares ordinary people for an extraordinary destiny.”
— C.S. Lewis
Anonymous asked:
Hey 2pretty😊, I'm an 18 year old follower and i need guidance on how to stay classy in the "classless" society we live in.
2pretty answered:
First we have to make some guidelines for what qualifies as classy (keeping in mind that I am a advocate for traditional femininity).
In my opinion, here are a few things that signifies class, not in the social ranking sense, but in how one carries themselves:
- Always leaving the house with your hair done. Your hair is your crown and is one of the main things that shows that you take good care of yourself. Clean, healthy, hydrated hair that is maintained at the ends and well-styled. Professionally dyed (if you want to change your natural color) and not in crazy colors.
- Always wearing a presentable outfit. Nice clean shoes, properly fitting clothes that lack vulgarity, and things that are appropriate for ones age. Making an effort to put on a proper outfit, not just throwing on articles of clothes. Making sure that your clothes are for the occasion, i.e. athletic wear only for athletic occasions, sleepwear only for bedtime, loungewear only indoors, day clothes for day wear.
- Having respectful encounters with those on the outside world and in your personal life. Speaking with kindness, using an appropriate volume, saying please and thank you, not rushing employees, making pleasant small talk, and giving compliments when you see something worth acknowledging.
- Not feeling the need to always engage in arguments or combative situations. Remember, you don’t have to show up to every fight you’re invited to. Sometimes, the classiest thing to do is agree to disagree, keep your negative thoughts to yourself, admit that you personally can’t make someone change their mind and see things from your perspective, and let people be angry by themselves. It doesn’t mean you “lose”. It means you are saving your energy and frustration for more pressing matters.
- Keeping your personal hygiene in check. Do you brush your teeth daily? Do you bathe daily? Do you wash your hands frequently? Do you allow yourself to eat messily? Have you used moisturizer and perfume today? Are your nails clean and evenly filed? Has your body hair been groomed to your personal preference?
- Not having “sneaky girl” tendencies. Meaning, don’t gossip about others or engage in gossip around you. If someone starts asking you for information about your peers, say “I’m not 100% sure, you should ask them directly”. Make it clear that you will only tell business that relates to you. Keep secrets that are shared to you. Don’t plot on your friends’ downfall behind their backs. Don’t homewreck and don’t do snake-like things.
- Keep “you” to yourself. Don’t make yourself so available for public consumption. Stop sharing so much online and keep your personal life personal. Sharing a few things here and there is perfectly fine, but leave people asking questions about you. How did she do that? Why is she there? When did she go there? Where does she live? Who bought that for her? How much money does she make? If they know everything, you have delegated yourself to being a public spectacle, and there is nothing classy about that. Remaining mysterious is a good thing. If someone wants to know personal stuff about you, then they better become a close personal friend, bc thats who that information is reserved for. (Which is why only my actual friends on tumblr get to see my selfies, rather than me posting them for everyone to see 😝)
- Keep your reputation in mind. What you do in public, you are publicly branded with. Do you sleep around? Do you drink heavily? Do you party a lot? Do you study all day? Do you volunteer often? Do you copy people? Are you a teachers pet? Do you make everyone laugh? Do you look out for others? Are you there in peoples time of need? Do you frequently gain and drop friends? Can you keep a job? Do you side-chick yourself? People notice. It’s hard to change your reputation once enough people have put you into a box. Or rather, once you’ve put yourself into a box and everyone else has paid attention to it. Maintain a classy reputation in public. If you want to get a little “messy”, do it at home.
- Stop keeping up with celebs and influencers that you don’t consider to be classy. You are the company you keep and even though you don’t know them personally, you still are in their company from a distance. You will be inclined to talk like them, behave like them, dress like them, and constantly consume their content. People we spend time engaging with have an effect on us, shocker. Find people you would like to emulate in some way, and spend more time with them, rather than those you’d prefer to not end up like.
- Have hobbies that contribute to personal growth. Whether that be a sport, cooking lessons, fitness, reading, beauty routines, writing, gardening, studying, music lessons, dancing, it doesn’t matter! As long as you enjoy it and it’s a productive way to spend your time elevating yourself, it’s definitely good for you. More time spent making yourself a better woman means less time spent on damaging activities.
this is perfect and why you’re my fav!!